How do you regulate your life within this industry? As a young filmmaker I’m noticing habits developing where I drop everything for the films I work on.
I've been at the same job for 32 years. It is not industry related, but it's a Union job with pension, retirement payout, and insurance. 1st priority is to do whatever supports my wife and kids. That is non-negotiable. I've regulated filmmaking and freelancing by making it 2nd priority.
I'm very lucky in that my schedule averages 2 or 3 days of work. I am usually able to request time off for freelance projects. I've worked on several indie features and many commercials this way. When it's my movie, I am more than willing to pour my time into it. But, after working on someone else's movie, industrial, comedy show, or commercial, I'm very happy to return to my day job, because it is far less stress. I don't have to load/unload equipment; I just go home. That's nice!
I just accepted an upcoming gig, for shooting and editing a musical trio performing a 50 minute set. A flat $1,200, during a 4 hour event. Sounds good, right? But the guy keeps trying to add things for me to cover, other than the trio. I am a filmmaker (primary camera is a Black Magic with manual focus pointed at the band) not an event videographer, but it's turning into that, where he wants me moving away from my setup to cover "surprises" with certain guests. I'm having to consider extra lighting and sound. That will mean much more editing, as well. I'm "this" close to telling him to forget about it.
There are a lot of questionable gigs like that. I had one that required me to edit a vertical (portrait) video for the Bally's sign on Las Vegas Boulevard. Sounded simple. The producers were promoting a musical group, and they wanted all the reviewer/celebrity quotes (with clips), such as Jay Leno, saying "Awesome band!" There were so many quotes that Bally's kept rejecting the video. I must have cut 10 versions of that video. In the end, the musical group ended up at another hotel and the producers only paid me part of what they owed. The one guy looked mafia, so I didn't threaten him.
Don't get me started on movie stories, where the producer expects you to do every job (direct, light, record sound, shoot, edit, score), work late into the night, and then they don't feed you properly.
Again, stuff like that just makes me appreciate my day job, where I work my shift, go to the cafeteria when I'm hungry, and generally have a good time.