Okay, since I am just in the process of going to NYU Tisch (though not for Film Production, yet, I'm trying to do a double major) in Fall, I'm going to try to demystify the 'outrageous' tuition claims.
Yes schools like NYU, USC, UCLA, etc. are extremely expensive, BUT some of them have some great financial aid. Of the big schools I only applied to NYU and USC because I knew that out of state applicants at UCLA got very little aid. USC has some of the best financial aid out of any school that I applied to, as they guarantee 100% need met to all U.S. students. But of course it is very difficult to make it in that university, I tried really hard but was rejected (this year was their toughest apparently with even a lower acceptance rate than before).
NYU is not known for its great financial aid, in fact I always had this in my mind "I'll get accepted to NYU but won't attend because they don't give very good financial aid." But when I got the news that I was in, I looked at the financial aid and there was a $50,000 scholarship listed. I wasn't a particularly special applicant I thought, but apparently due to a mix of my financial need and my outstanding portfolio/academic record I got this amount of money. It covers all of the tuition but I am living on campus so the total cost is a lot higher, but it is manageable for my family as I also got grants from FAFSA and basically we'll just have to pay $14,000 per year through work-study and some loans that my parents can easily handle.
The basic idea that I wanted to get across though is don't be afraid to apply to your dream schools or to the most prestigious schools even with a lack of money. When a university accepts you, they WANT YOU to attend and will try to make it easy for you to go. But even if it isn't manageable or you get rejected, you will discover your true nest (and if not, then you can always transfer or attend another school for graduate studies). I always saw myself attending USC or Chapman, California dreamin' of course, but somehow when I saw the NYU acceptance with the scholarship (this was before the USC rejection), I just knew that NYU would fit me best.
Also, make sure to apply to a bunch of schools. I was a bit extreme, I applied to 17 schools (with 2 more applications that were dropped, don't do this though, that was due to my crazy insecurities!). If NYU wasn't an option I still had plenty of good universities for non-film related studies and some great film schools (Columbia College Chicago, Emerson, and Boston University).
And finally, do what you love man. If you love film then of course pursue film. Don't live for your parents because well, it's your life and you are starting to make your own decisions. Although you don't necessarily need to pursue film directly through a Film Production major. There are many many many paths. A lot of people with film experience have told me that a great path to film is to take a degree in a Humanities major such as Literature, Comparative Literature, Philosophy, History, Film Studies, etc. to simply live and breathe stories that will help inform your later work and then take Film Production for grad school. There are also filmmakers that never go to college at all, or never decide to take production courses at all. Also college is a time to discover yourself, I always feel like I'm 100% certain that cinema is my life, but there is a chance that I'll discover it's not for me and try to study something else. It's the same for everyone, so I guess what I'm trying to say is, follow your passion but be open if somehow your passion changes.
That being said, your parents are right. Film is an unreliable business. It's a difficult business whether you want to be a studio filmmaker (hell, I've read even Spielberg is having hard times), a commercial independent filmmaker, an art filmmaker, or an experimental filmmaker. But it depends on what you want out of Film. If you want a secure successful career financially, then film is probably not the best field to get involved in. But if you are passionate about cinema and are certain that you want to dedicate your life to it no matter what, then it's a good idea. Or if you really want to push the medium forward some way and make some really amazing films, then do it man. But it all depends on you, what are your motivations, and whether a career in film will really satisfy you.
Haha I've written quite a bit, but I hope some of it was helpful
