I think it's safe to assume that many women love men with character, personality, and intelligence...or am I a freak of nature?
Not at all. In fact I think this is the point. A good director should be all of those things, I don't think that it's just that women are attracted to powerful people, it's just that the skills a good director should have, the ability to listen, talk about character's emotional lives with a level of understanding and self confidence are just attractive traits.
Good directors are sexy, attractive people. This applies to women directors as well. And these personality traits will overcome any slight physical defects (Although it does help to be gorgeous and have a great voice). Even the elephant man pulled, because of his inherent humanity and ulitmately his vunerablilty.
Er, so I think my point is that the main reason for learning to become a good director is because you get to be sexy and attractive, even if physically you're not.
Of course as I'm cursed with dashing good looks, a fantastically deep voice and incredible dress sense, I've never had to test these theories out.